At first, it may be easy for you to make new acquaintances and start relationships. You may not be very selective in your choice or too naive in your expectations. But over time, you rethink a lot, change your priorities, get a whole lot of valuable experience, and you're both disappointed.
At some point, you realize that you look at relationships between people in a completely different way. And this strongly affects your personal life. We explain why this happens in this article.
1. You understand that you no longer want emotions and burning passions.
Over time, you stop wanting to get bright emotions from relationships. All these noisy quarrels with broken dishes or finding out who is right and who is to blame, I want to leave behind. This is replaced by new priorities: calmness, safety, care, support, and so on. But the most important thing is the ability to negotiate, which you have studied for so long. Now, when you understand that any problem can be solved if you wish, if both people are ready to seek a compromise, you don't want to waste time worrying. You wait for the girl to meet you, and not demand unconditional concessions from you.
Reluctance to conflict and jealousy is only a consequence of your accumulated experience. In the past, you had enough relationships that ended in separation due to the inability to control emotions. You made the appropriate conclusions and realized that it's time to take a new look at how to build relationships.
2. You realize what negative aspects of a person you cannot put up with.
At first, entering into a relationship, you believe that you will come to terms with the shortcomings and peculiarities of the person you love, that over time the girl will change, and you will help her in this. But with experience comes the understanding that it is worth being less naive and more tolerant of others. People don't have to share the same views, ideas, or interests as you, satisfy your needs, or meet your expectations. We are all different, and if a person is satisfied with what he is, then you also need to accept it.
Now you clearly understand what minuses of a girl you cannot put up with. And you try to find out all the information that interests you before you make a decision about starting a relationship. This allows you not to deceive yourself or the girl. But at the same time, it significantly narrows the range of searches.
3.You devote a lot of time and energy to other areas of life.
If the list of your priorities now includes self-realization, increased income, and the acquisition of property, then it is not surprising that building any kind of relationship is too difficult for you. After all, almost all of your time and energy is spent on achieving your goals. In addition, the schedule is getting tougher, new work tasks are constantly being added, and the only thing you dream about in your free time is rest.
Being in such a crazy circle of affairs, it is very difficult to allocate time for relationships. After all, they require serious psychological and emotional involvement from you. Acquaintance, courtship, meetings - all this requires strength, as well as free windows in the schedule.
4. You become more cautious because of a painful experience.
Not all relationships end with a calm conversation and a joint decision to break up. In your life, there were probably grandiose scandals, attempts to return everything, betrayals, disappointments, and so on. Everyone has painful events in the past that left an indelible mark.
At some point, when a lot of this experience accumulates, you can become overly cautious in communicating with others. You can resort to such a strategy, not wanting to be disappointed and suffer anymore. On the one hand, this is good: it will be much more difficult to deceive you, and before starting a relationship, you will persistently understand what a girl is. On the other hand, sometimes caution can turn into mistrust, a negative attitude, and bottomless jealousy, which will prevent you from building relationships.
5. You are bored with the dating stage.
More precisely, after several unsuccessful attempts to build a serious relationship that would grow into a family, you feel bored at the first stages of dating. You hate the process of getting to know each other. You have to retell for the hundredth time already learned stories about your childhood, parents, friends, etc., and even moments that previously seemed funny to you no longer make you happy. You miss more and more information because it ceases to be meaningful in your eyes.
Besides, you don't like listening to stories from your new girlfriend either. Especially if all the stories from the lives of your exes are perfectly preserved in your memory. You can subconsciously devalue the information that the girl is trying to convey to you, believing that this relationship will end in the same way as all the previous ones. In that case, you would rather not meet anyone, and spend your free time on activities that will be more useful or interesting.
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