Long-distance relationships arise for various reasons: due to a pandemic, studying or working abroad, a travel romance or online dating on VeronikaLove. Either way, it can be difficult, so it's important to understand the nature of these relationships and find ways to keep in touch with your partner if you live far apart.
Disadvantages of a long distance relationship
There are difficulties in long-distance relationships that can become a point of tension and frustration, undermine trust and lead to a breakup. For example:
Impossibility of personal contact. Those who have experienced long-distance relationships cite the lack of physical intimacy as one of the most difficult. Tactility, touch, sex help to strengthen affection, and, unfortunately, it is impossible to convey hugs and kisses through the screen.
Different rhythm of life and the complexity of organizing joint time, especially if partners live in different time zones. But even in neighboring cities, free time schedules do not always coincide, and efforts must be made to find time for a conversation.
The risk of getting carried away by another person. Partners are not immune from this in ordinary relationships, but most often their need for attention and intimacy is satisfied, and they spend their free time together. Long-distance relationships mean that everyone spends weekends and free evenings alone or in companies where they can meet new love.
You cannot count on the help of a partner. He may be sympathetic and provide moral support, but in a real situation (shopping for groceries, helping with the move, getting medicine from the pharmacy, or taking care of you when you're sick, for example) you can feel lonely.
Benefits of a long distance relationship
There are good things about long distance relationships. For example:
The ability to achieve a goal that requires a lot of effort and time. Get a degree, learn the skills to grow professionally, train for a marathon—and it's not all about dating.
There is no common life - there are no reasons for disagreements and discontent.
Personal space. Partners living together may experience discomfort from the inability to be alone.
Long-distance relationships fuel mutual interest and enhance the joy of meeting.
Each meeting becomes a holiday in itself, without additional scenery.
There is a chance to change your life dramatically if your loved one lives in another city or country and sees your future there.
Long distance relationship stages
Adaptation. You have to get used to the fact that communication is concentrated only in gadgets, and evenings and weekends pass without a loved one nearby.
Idealization. In long-distance relationships, it is easier to avoid grinding and conflicts, to hide your bad mood, to attribute desirable traits to your partner or to pass off some as your own.
Meetings. An important stage when all the accumulated tenderness can finally get out, and everything that was so important to talk about face to face becomes possible. The euphoria of dating can be replaced by a low mood after a breakup.
Stagnation. It happens when there is dissatisfaction and lack of understanding of where to move on, the relationship seems to freeze.
Ending a long distance relationship. If you managed to keep in touch, a new - long-awaited - stage may await you, when you are both in the same city and, perhaps, even live together. Despite the fact that you already know each other well, know how to express desires and feelings, live through conflicts, in real life it can be different than on opposite sides of the screen.
How to maintain long distance relationships
The key to building a comfortable relationship for both is an agreement on how long you part. Outline the time frame: “when I graduate”, “when the contract ends”, “when we buy a house”.
How else to maintain relationships at a distance?
Find time and a convenient communication channel for regular communication
Text and voice messages will help you stay closer to each other. Video calls are a gift to anyone who maintains relationships at a distance. On VeronikaLove, it will be convenient and comfortable for you to do this with your chosen one like nowhere else.
So, if each of you understands the advantages and difficulties of long-distance relationships, sees more of the former than the latter, realizes what this step is for, and discusses the period of separation with your partner, we can talk about being ready for this amazing experience. We at Eva Blog wish you to maintain mutual interest and trust, as well as achieve the goals for which you are making this difficult decision.
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