Over the past 80 years, Harvard scientists have monitored the physical and emotional well-being of more than 700 participants. It was one of the longest and most detailed studies of its kind. Many of the conclusions are quite expected: you should not drink too much alcohol, do not smoke, play sports, eat well, and constantly learn something new.
But according to psychiatrist George Vaillant, who has led the study for more than 30 years, the main ingredient for a long, healthy, and happy life is love.
The quality of a relationship has an incredible impact on the quality of life. The deeper and more complete they are, the better. The words "relationship" and "love" are usually associated with the union of two people, but this is too narrow a view. After all, you can be in love with some occupation, community or nature. In any case, if the feeling is sincere, you will win.
However, it is not so easy to love, whether it is a person or an occupation. Love is a continuous process, it needs to be nurtured. In our time, when the constant desire to be online and the culture of consumption reign in society, this is especially difficult.
Distraction, busyness, and the constant desire for something more are the opposites of love. Because of them, she is relegated to the background or completely replaced, because she needs care and attention.
Caring is expressed in sincere concern for someone or something.
This is not a fleeting interest that changes with the advent of something new. It must be unchanged.
For example, if you have been into gardening for a month and tend to your plantings regularly, they will grow. But if after that your interest subsides and you water them only when you have nothing else to do, the plants will wither and die. They, like love, need constant care in order to bloom.
And it also needs attention. Be fully present in the present moment. Don't get distracted by thinking about where you want or need to be. When we truly give something our full attention, the line between us and the object of that attention blurs.
We experience a sense of unity: we become the picture we paint, or the forest we walk through. We feel like we are one with the person we love. Philosopher George Leonard wrote that such sensations are places “where God lives.” Perhaps they also have love. Maybe it's all the same.
One can argue for a long time about what love is, but it is pretty clear what it is not. This is not a life hack for quick problem solving. Not likes on social networks or the number of friends.
Any sphere contains the potential for love, and therefore for a happy life. Just show a little care and attention to see it.
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