The first months of a relationship are usually the most intense: you get to know each other, spend a lot of time together, rearrange your life and schedule, try to be romantic. But all this ends quickly enough, and when you get used to your new status, the next stage begins, when you have already got used to it and the relationship ceases to evoke strong emotions, as at the beginning.
If after a couple of months with a girl you become unbearably bored and this happens every time you start dating someone, this is a warning sign. You need to figure out the reasons for your boredom so as not to deprive yourself of the chance for a serious relationship in the future. We've put together a few possible reasons.
1 You lack emotions
After the so-called candy-bouquet period, you are faced with a harsh reality: any emotions are dulled. Of course, you can try to find a new girl, sincerely believing that right now next to you is simply not your person. But the problem will not disappear anywhere - once again you will feel bored. In order for a relationship to bring you positive emotions, you must work on it. Do not sit still: come up with new ideas for joint leisure, make pleasant surprises for the girl for no reason, allow yourself to be more spontaneous. All this will do you good.
2 You enter relationships with unrealistic expectations
You may enter relationships with unrealistic expectations. For example, you can count on the fact that your girlfriend will motivate you not to sit back or that she will make your life more interesting. In fact, it is your task, no one else should kick or entertain you. And the sooner you realize this, the easier it will be for you to learn to satisfy your needs on your own. Therefore, you will not be so disappointed in your partner and in the relationship.
3 You lack the feeling of freedom
There are people for whom it is vital to feel freedom and independence. In general, ideally, every person should strive for this. This is not about absolute freedom, which, rather, will lead to bacchanalia and destroy the psyche of your girl. And that every person in a relationship needs personal space. If your girlfriend seeks to control your every move, showing up everywhere with you or making you always report to her, it's no wonder you feel bored. If jealousy and a thirst for control appeared for no good reason and you did not give a reason for distrust, you should at least defend your personal boundaries.
4 You feel like you know everything about the girl
The first months of a relationship are very eventful and full of stories. So you can quickly start to feel like you've known your girlfriend for a very long time. All the information that she posted about herself and her life is deposited in your head, and it seems to you that you will not learn anything new about her. However, this is a false fear: believe me, even couples who have been married for many years continue to surprise each other, revealing themselves from the most unexpected sides. So do not rush to conclusions. Moreover, a person cannot feel absolutely comfortable with someone he likes a few months after they met.
5 You miss free time by yourself
Maybe you are a person who needs free time spent alone. And with the advent of the girl, you lost that opportunity. There is too much to do for you to allow yourself several hours a day alone with a book, a movie or your favorite hobby. This often happens when partners do not share their leisure time. But, as mentioned above, you and your girlfriend should have personal space. Otherwise, your relationship can quickly become dependent.
6 You spend too little time with a girl
Too rare meetings can also cause boredom in a relationship. If you don't spend enough time together, you don't get the satisfaction of being with each other. You do not have time to discuss things that are important to you, you are constantly in a state of stress due to limited time, you worry that you are not investing enough in relationships. Well, the most banal thing is that you miss each other, and boredom gradually spreads to all areas of life.
7 You can not put up with other people's shortcomings
If you do not know how to put up with the shortcomings of the people around you, then the relationship will disappoint you every time. As soon as you get to know the girl better and realize that she has negative character traits or habits, you will begin to doubt your choice. You regret the time spent and hope to somehow influence your partner. But this, as expected, does not work. And dating apps create the illusion of endless choice, which makes you lose interest in your girlfriend and build a relationship with someone else.
8 You're Dating The Wrong Girl
You may be bored in a relationship because you choose the wrong girls. For example, you evaluate them solely by their appearance, without even thinking about whether you will be interested in her. If you enter into a relationship with those to whom you have only a physical attraction, then nothing serious will come of it. You will inevitably be disappointed in your choice and quickly begin to languish with boredom.
9 You're Too Much Into Relationships
At the beginning of a relationship, you can get too involved in them, forgetting about your hobbies and neglecting communication with family and friends. By changing habits, consciously or subconsciously, you reshape your life, but after a while you get bored. After all, not every person will be ready to do the same for you. The feeling of abandonment and betrayal will take over, and you will begin to blame your girlfriend for not paying enough attention to you and holding you back.
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