How often do we regret that we didn't immediately see the demons in the beauty with whom we started a relationship. But you are already a mature man, so it's time to tie it up.
At first, a friend seems ideal, because she carefully hides her dark side, and she constantly throws tons of happiness hormones into your brain, plus you experience an increased desire for her.
At this moment, you don't see, or you don't want to see, obvious signs that future relationships can turn into a disaster, and thus you start digging your own hole.
You will have to become an impartial judge, mercilessly evaluating its positive and negative qualities.
No one is saying that your girlfriend is bad, but she may not be your person, so be ruthless and fair in your judgments.
We have prepared for you 8 key points by which you can judge the character of your girlfriend.
What are her values?
Life values are one of the determining factors by which we can judge a person, his approach to life. And what are they like in your potential girlfriend? Does she have a goal, or does she live from one new iPhone model to the next?
If her values are different from yours, that's okay. It is normal when people's views on life differ, and even if they differ, but the girl strives for the highest, then everything is fine.
But if her existence is limited to social networks, there is no big dream in life to which you can devote yourself, then is she a good match for you?
Look for a friend who dreams of mastering any profession, strives to develop and help people, and not a dumb doll who knows only the biography of Steve Jobs by heart. Have a couple of conversations with her about the meaning of life, nature, the world in general - you will understand everything.
What is her relationship with the closest circle
An important point to pay attention to. If a girl has a warm relationship with her parents, if she is attentive to her loved ones and appreciates them, if she has real friends whom she cares about, then this is another plus in her piggy bank.
Respect for parents inculcates human respect, which it will transfer to your relationship. And the presence of several real friends indicates that she wisely chooses her social circle.
If she has many so-called friends, whose friendship can only be called superficial, and her relationship with her parents resembles the relationship of warring tribes, then think about how emotionally enriched this lady is.
If it lacks basic values, then it is unlikely that you will last long together.
How she treats other people
This point refers to how she relates to friends, colleagues, family, strangers, and subordinates, if any. If she's kind to everyone, always ready to lend a helping hand, and worthy of a Nobel Peace Prize, then you've hit the jackpot, man.
But if her arrogance exceeds only rudeness and neglect, then already on the first anniversary of your life together, you will think about why you should not stage your own death, just to get rid of her.
A person must respect others, regardless of their status and position, so if a friend lacks philanthropy, then one should not waste time on her.
Did you find this negative trait in her character? Refrain from starting serious relationships.
Is she responsible for her life?
Does your friend know how to take responsibility and doesn't think that everything in life is owed to her? Does she work hard and achieve her goals in order to make life better and more colorful, does she recognize mistakes and is ready to work on them? We can please: already 4 out of 8, friend.
Such a girl will never bore you. You will feel that there is a self-sufficient person on whom you can rely.
If a friend is uninitiative, avoids responsibility and tries to shift it onto the shoulders of other people, blames others for everything, then you should think about it: maybe you are too different.
Such a person delegates all responsibility for his life to you: any failures will be considered your omission. In addition, she will behave like Velcro, leaving no personal space for life.
How she copes with stress
Alas, but life is not sugar and sometimes it puts us in trouble. How does your girl cope with problems?
If she doesn't start throwing tantrums, torments you with her bad mood, doesn't show a hellish character, then, perhaps, she is a representative of those most adequate girls.
She can deal with her problems by remaining calm and solving the situation with a cool head. This does not mean that you should leave her alone with her problems, rather, get up your ass and help her deal with them.
The question is how she behaves in similar situations, does she lose her dignity and her face.
Crazy 24/7 is not the best choice
It may seem to you that a relationship with a calm girl will not give you drive and emotions, but you are wrong.
Such a friend will give you stability and peace, and drive and entertainment depend on you. A crazy girlfriend at first glance may seem like an ideal choice: charismatic, cheerful, a generator of cool phrases, and sex with her shakes the ring of Saturn.
But this is not the best choice for a long-term relationship, and here's why: most likely, she will have a huge baggage from the past, which you have to live with terribly. This is due to the fact that not only you are attracted to such girls.
Plus, such ladies are simply terrible at planning the future, as they prefer to live in the present. Her constant drive, thirst for adventure may tire you over time, and she will not have enough of a new dose of adrenaline.
So if she constantly lacks adventurers and she wants to light up, then think about whether the girl is next to you now?
Is she restrained?
A girl with a good character is aware of her strengths and does not exaggerate them. She can be a little shy, reserved, but happy. She behaves like this not because she suffers from a lack of confidence, but because she does not see the need to brag and show off her life, because she does not need approval from other people.
Problem ladies clearly lack humility. Because of problems with self-esteem, they try to tell everyone and everyone about their even the most insignificant achievement, they put their lives on display to satisfy their social deficiency.
Such a lifestyle will drive you crazy over time, so choose a self-sufficient girlfriend who will not be repaid by the number of likes on a photo on social networks. In addition, her character will directly affect your nerves.
If a friend turns out to be excessively expressive, then this is fraught with scandals and constant clarification of relations.
Is she intelligent?
She does not necessarily have to be a doctor of science, but she must have an understanding of the world. Everyone should be able to support topics related to history, politics, philosophy, nature and the universe at the everyday level.
She thinks, so she will always be interesting to you. If the size of her brain is placed in the carapace of Achatina, then it is unlikely that you will be able to feel comfortable with her.
Imagine: except for fashion, new eyelash trends and small dogs, there is nothing to talk about with her. In addition, there is a risk that in society she can utter such a phrase that will make you blush for which you will be punished.
Believe me, intelligence is practically one of the main traits that should be inherent in your girlfriend. If there is no ego, then run away from her to the southeast. She still won't be able to understand in which direction to look for you.
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