5 Relationship Myths that Have Been Debunked by Science

Wrong, but stable ideas apply to all stages - from dating to marriage.

1. Men don't like women who make the first move.
We have heard for years that men are hunters by nature. Therefore, you need to give him space to conquer, because otherwise there will be no interest. However, according to surveys, 90% of men feel comfortable if a woman first invites them on a date. This is confirmed by sociological research. So women can safely write first.

2. Quarrels are a sign of a bad relationship.
It seems that in harmonious unions, partners should be able to negotiate without raising their voices and without getting annoyed. Practice is good, but it would be dishonest to demand perfection from anyone. Everyone quarrels, and sometimes too emotionally - if they missed early attempts to clarify the situation.

But this is not fatal for a couple. In general, quarrels help to better understand each other - if both people are willing to listen. Moreover, the more people value each other, the less likely they are to believe that a partner behaves destructively during a conflict. So quarrels happen in any relationship, it’s just that in good ones they are less destructive and help to steer towards something better.

3. Good relationships work on the principle of "you to me - I to you"
Of course, both people need to invest in a relationship. But healthier alliances are formed by people who feel secure enough to do something for their partner and not expect anything in return. And when lovers keep track of who contributed how much, this makes them hostages of internal accounting and makes them less generous - including emotionally.

4. In a relationship, you need to say every little thing.
Being able to say what you need through your mouth is an important skill for successful communication. But in a good relationship, people understand each other's feelings and needs without having to constantly talk about them. Including partners are able to read each other's non-verbal signals.

However, this does not mean what to expect from close telepathy skills. Important things are best said out loud.

5. Marriage is just a stamp in your passport.
There is an opinion that if everything is fine in a couple, then marriage is not necessary at all. Lovers can be happy anyway. And to solve legal issues, there are adoption of their own children, wills and so on.

But some researchers believe that married people live longer, feel better, earn more and are even more satisfied with their lives than single, divorced or cohabiting people. Moreover, the life of men outside of marriage develops worse than women. Although, of course, we are talking about averages, in each case, things may be different.

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