Truth About Relations

"There is nothing more permanent than temporary," says an Eastern proverb. Maybe sometime from such a "temporary", the most permanent will happen. Women are looking for long-term, reliable relationships in which they could have a baby, get psychological safety and relax.

A woman wants to find a man who would belong exclusively to her - she is ready to build relationships with him and deepen them all her life. The woman is more earthly.

The man is the wind. By nature, he is a conqueror. Constantly conquering different women, he asserts himself in his eyes. This does not mean that he does not need a permanent woman - he is needed, he needs a reliable rear, a harbor, to which he can always return after his campaigns and victories. And if you allow this “liner” to go to the open sea and surf the expanses of life and other women, he will always be happy to return to his harbor.

It is necessary to go through a variety of relationships, learn and recognize different people, and then, one day, you can really find your own. And if you assign each oncoming person and seek loyalty from him for life, to cling to him, you will never find yours for sure.

And we all cling, we are big owners. Entering into a relationship with someone, we demand that the other person belongs to us, and only to us. So that from this moment on, he would look only at us, love only us, and be interested only in us. But is it possible? We are all living people, and if we are interested in one person, then the same can be of interest to another. You just need to allow that if we once liked another, then he might like someone else, even with the best of relationships.

By allowing the other to do and live as he understands, we gain value for ourselves. Another can leave us, cool off for some time to us, anything can happen - even in nature there are ebbs and flows, day and night, summer and winter. The heat of feelings can’t be kept 24 hours a day, 365 days a year, otherwise, we will simply burn out. Therefore, in any relationship there are phases of activity and passivity, you just need not be afraid of them.

Even if another person leaves us, he can come back to us again, and then the relationship will get a completely different quality, a different value, they will be updated, because the other will have a new look at what he has, and we ourselves can in a new way, appreciate the person and what we have. And that which has already ceased to have value because of the daily hustle and bustle of familiarity and mechanicalness in relationships will shine in a new way, acquire new colors, a new value, because, having gone a distance, we rediscover what we have.

And it is possible that our partner will find a new interest and go on to look for their own happiness. It is useless to cling to what is leaving - it will either return itself, in a new capacity, or will not return and we need to rise, and go look further. And we are afraid to go out and look. These relations were difficult for us, and to go and go out into the open voyage again is just scary, we do not believe in ourselves or in the fact that we can find something else. Therefore, we never let go, cling to the last, spoil relations and leave them crippled, with lost faith in men or women. We go out of a relationship with wounds. If we are still relatively easy to enter into relationships, then it is very difficult for us to leave them. We enter and lock the door on all locks, throw away the keys and even forget where the door is. And then we beat our heads against the wall, trying to get out. And all because of mutual possession. It is useless to demand freedom from the other; you always have to start from yourself. And we usually make claims to another, not realizing that possession is always mutual. The other possesses us, only because we possess them.