Being in a relationship, you can do things that after some time you will greatly regret. This is not always due to stupidity or naivety - sometimes you are just afraid of offending a person, you are in too much of a hurry, or you try to do your best, getting the opposite effect. We've rounded up a few common mistakes that can really hurt you or your relationship in general. Be careful and try to avoid them.
1. About introducing the girl to his parents too quickly
Agree, there is such an unwritten rule that acquaintance with parents comes when your relationship can really be called serious. That is, when you already live together, meet for a long time or plan a wedding in the future. Then you decide to get to know your loved one's family better.
Of course, circumstances often develop in such a way that acquaintance with parents occurs completely by accident or in a situation that is not entirely suitable for this. In such moments, you cannot change anything, because you do not control everything that happens to you and around you. But if, after dating a girl for a few months or weeks, you decide to introduce her to your parents, know that this is a bad idea.
To begin with, from now on your relatives will think that everything is very serious with you. Most likely, your girlfriend will become a regular guest at all family holidays, they will be interested in her condition and mood, family members will send her greetings. Of course, this is if your choice earns the approval of your parents. You may be pressured into making some decisions, you will feel obligated, you will be asked about the wedding and plans for children, and your separation will no longer be able to go unnoticed by your relatives. In general, you should never rush, think twice if you even need to let your parents know that you have started a relationship.
2. That you moved in too soon
In a relationship, the most important thing is not to rush. Even if it seems to you that you are literally made for each other and do not want to waste a single minute, let the feelings subside and make a conscious decision to move. Hurrying, you can greatly regret your act after a while.
Your relationship must go through the confent-bouquet stage. When you are madly in love with each other, do not see flaws in your partner, try to arrange dates and surprises as often as possible, this creates a lot of pleasant memories. If you move in too early, you can replace all this with a routine that will quickly kill all the wonderful feelings in you. With a high probability, you will no longer seem to each other as interesting and attractive as before, and the relationship can end quickly.
3. That you misplaced your priorities.
Of course, with the advent of a girl, your life will change. Communication with friends will obviously become less, because you will have another important person in your environment with whom you want to spend your time. The main thing is not to let falling in love or your inner fears and doubts affect your prioritization.
You and your needs should always come first. Always ask yourself what you want. If your views on relationships, plans for the future or life principles do not converge with a girl and you cannot come to a compromise that would equally suit both of you, this means that you better break up before you spoil each other's psyche and become disappointed in love.
Do not forget about friends with the appearance of a girl in the same way as do not forget to make time for her. You can’t go to extremes, beat your chest and say that relationships will never become more important for you than friendship. It doesn't work like that: friends and a girlfriend shouldn't be mutually exclusive in your life. They are equally important to make you feel happy. Just learn to allocate free time correctly.
4. About what you decided for two
It's great when a man knows how to make decisions. But it’s not cool at all if it’s always a choice without a choice: if you don’t consult your girlfriend, don’t tell her about the whole situation as a whole, don’t explain the motives for your actions, but simply put her before the fact. It kills trust in you and puts a barrier between you.
You can personally destroy a good relationship simply because you will not reckon with the opinion of a loved one. Remember this whenever you feel like making the final decision without involving your girlfriend at all. All issues that in one way or another concern the two of you should be discussed.
5. About what you dedicated to others in your personal life
The biggest mistake is to tell the people around you when something is not going well in your relationship. Try not to devote to what is happening between you and your girlfriend, even your parents and your close friends. Believe me, from the outside, even the most harmless quarrel can look several times worse. Your loved ones will form the wrong opinion about your partner, and in the end this can greatly affect if not your relationship, then exactly how your family and friends will perceive the girl. If you don’t want unnecessary problems, solve all problems only with your loved one.
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