Before you enter into a relationship, especially one that, in your opinion, should end in a wedding and the creation of a family, you need to put your affairs in order. Try to at least solve the most basic problems spoiling your life. If you do not do this, they will negatively affect the future of your couple.
Financial difficulties.
A person who cannot properly provide even for himself is unlikely to be a burden in a relationship. And a girl definitely shouldn’t take responsibility for your financial condition, constantly lend you money, pay off your loans or push you to make any changes in your work. These are your problems that you need to try to solve before you start a serious relationship. Otherwise, the topic of money can cause constant scandals in the future and your separation.
It's not about the commercialism of women. Judge for yourself: start dating a person who cannot afford to do something nice for you, even to call you on a date or buy coffee, who in case of sudden problems will not even be able to help and who will not reach a comfortable standard of living for you, It's an idea doomed to fail. In addition, a serious relationship, sooner or later, can lead to the creation of a family, and this also requires a lot of investment.
Problems with controlling emotions.
If you are unable to keep your emotions under control, you should take up the solution of this problem as soon as possible. Try to be in time before you enter into a relationship with someone. Simply because your girlfriend will become the very person on whom your outbursts of aggression will be reflected in the first place. To condemn her to suffering and question her safety is clearly not a man's act. With you, she should feel calm, and not worry that you will suddenly lash out at her because of another little thing.
Problems with self-esteem.
A girl should not raise your self-esteem. The presence or absence of self-confidence is a consequence of only your actions or your inaction. You are responsible for how you feel. Therefore, before entering into a relationship, especially a serious one, work on your self-esteem. Start with the simplest: build personal boundaries and do not allow others to violate them, do not settle for less than you want to receive, treat yourself with respect, value your time and your strength.
If one of the partners has low self-esteem, both partners suffer. One because he cannot believe in the sincerity of feelings and that someone could love him. And the second because of the constant mistrust, the need to confirm their love, the indecision of a loved one, and so on.
Trust issues.
It's not your girlfriend's fault that you had a traumatic relationship in the past. So she shouldn't suffer because of your past mistakes. Before you start dating anyone, be sure to get rid of trust issues. Otherwise, the person who will be next to you will be doomed to constant suffering. After all, you will not believe in the sincerity of his feelings, you will suspect the girl of deception, arrange quarrels from scratch. First, accept your past breakup and get rid of prejudices and negative expectations from a new relationship. Sometimes this may even require a visit to a psychotherapist.
Relationship problems.
Your girlfriend is not your mother or maid. She doesn't have to clean up after you two, sew up your socks, make sure you're always full. And you are no longer a child to hope for such an attitude towards yourself. You are an adult who is quite capable of standing up and serving your needs and fulfilling your desires. If you are sure that only your girlfriend should be responsible for the cleanliness in your apartment, for your appearance and even for the fullness of your stomach, you are not ready for a relationship. First, get rid of the problems with understanding the very concept of relationships and your roles in them. Understand that you and your girlfriend are partners, and both of you should be responsible first of all for yourself, and only then equally for your life.
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