Love or Calculation?

The eternal dilemma: how can a broken trough not stay because of romantic love? How to calculate everything well and then not die of boredom? In a word, what should be guided by the heart or the mind to build a serious relationship?

Give free rein to your heart...
On the one hand, you want to be uplifted, to feel sharp and felt. Luxurious gestures, insane concessions. Because all the rest can be bought. With the second - every woman and man is asked this question: "And what then?" And everything fades somehow, depreciates. The carriage turns into a pumpkin.

Some believe that as soon as you start looking for the meaning of love, it means that it is over. So what does it turn out to be - we need to live blindfolded as long as possible, forbid ourselves to turn on the brain? And the darker the night, the more dazzling the dawn will be.

And then the problem will be how far at the moment of insight you went in not wanting to see any flaws in your loved one and attributing imaginary virtues to him. They have already managed to buy joint housing, give birth to children. And what to do with all this now?

"Unique" and "for life" are demotivators
I suggest, for a start, to abandon excessive seriousness and thoroughness in the pursuit of finding a partner. I mean that popular set of evaluation criteria that every woman or man usually has. Also introduce a taboo on stamped stamps, such as "Unique - for life", "halves of a single whole" or "keeper of the hearth".

After all, let's be honest - no one knows what will happen there in forty years. As no one will give guarantees that you will celebrate a golden wedding with your partner. But this is not a reason to be afraid to live now. And if you are comfortable with someone, it is foolish to refuse to be with him, because according to generally accepted signs, he does not look like an applicant.

When the hopes are not justified, and behind the romantic curtain you see next to you a typical passive consumer of TV news and your dinners, you can always break up.

Don't think about red?
Yes Yes. Don't be terribly afraid to think about divorce. After all, when you exclude such a possibility, consider it as a personal defeat, your choice becomes too difficult. What is called - without the right to make a mistake. For example, I would be very depressed.

The fact that right now we are making a choice for life also stops many people, makes them abandon completely harmonious relationships. Brr, it's scary! Therefore, get rid of this archaic installation. And immediately you will be left with the burden of guilt, which we subconsciously lay in our future and which will certainly "appear" in the event of our wrong choice.

Since the success of such a complex "project" as a shortage depends not only on us, it is difficult to predict anything.

Lovers of their own accord
And finally - good news about love. You don't need to look for love and someone who could give it to you. Moreover, there is no need to be afraid of losing it. After all, it is in us, in our attitude towards ourselves and the world.

If it seems to you that you are unlucky in your personal life, think about why you don't love yourself. In the same way, there is no such thing as unhappy love. Even the fact that you yourself, thinking about someone, are experiencing uplift, are ready to roll mountains - value. And reciprocity is a great luxury.

And even if something goes wrong, at least you were honest. A bright, emotional love story always enriches and nourishes the personality. To feel its warmth in the soul is much nobler than to calculate the losses from an unsuccessful calculation.