How to stop being jealous (part 1)

Jealousy, to one degree or another, is inherent in all people. It can be valid and unreasonable, depending on the situation. Someone is jealous because of fear and self-doubt, and someone because of a very strong, but at the same time defective love, which gives rise to a feeling of possessiveness. No wonder they say that if a person is jealous, then he loves. Only it is not specified that this love is not real, because it deprives a person of freedom. About how to cope with jealousy and how to stop being jealous, even if there is every reason for this, I will tell you, dear readers, in this article.

What is jealousy
So, first of all, let's find out with you what jealousy is. Jealousy, friends are a complex of feelings such as: fear, insecurity, resentment, selfishness, pride, doubts, anger and self-pity. Taken together, all these feelings - very much poison a person's life and have a powerful destructive effect on him. From strong jealousy, many people experience headaches, lose their appetite, become nervous, restless, irritable, aggressive. Their aggression spills out on a partner and the relationship with him begins to deteriorate. This is how many bad things are combined in the feeling of jealousy.

A very interesting and undoubtedly the main feature of jealousy is that a jealous person begins to see his own property in his partner.

To stop being jealous, you need, first of all, to determine the cause of jealousy. There may be several of them. These reasons are associated with those feelings that together make up the feeling of jealousy, I wrote about them above.

Fear. If you are jealous because you are feeling afraid, then think about what you are afraid of and what you lack. Jealousy is largely based on fear - it's the fear of losing what you have or not getting what you need.

So, you need to find out what scares you, what consequences you are afraid of. You need to be aware of your fears so that you don't let them make you jealous. Think - what are you afraid of? What caused your fear? How reasonable and objective is it? What are the ways to deal with this fear? Do you know them? If not, find the information you need. In other words, understand yourself instead of concentrating all your attention on the person you are jealous of. Even if your fear is justified, this is not a reason to be jealous. This is a reason to look for a solution to your problem.