How to Spoil Your First Date

We are worried, nervous, thinking: how will everything go, but will she like me? But we often spoil the first impression of ourselves. What phrases and topics should be avoided when meeting?

1. To be late (or arrive too early)
The easiest way to kill all nascent romantic feelings is to get the person on the first date to sit alone for half an hour or more, waiting for you. But you shouldn't come in advance. A date is not an interview with a large company. Therefore, arriving in 15-20 minutes, you will just be nervous, sitting alone in a restaurant. Leave yourself a 3-5 minute margin for which you may be late.

2. Admit that they have studied the profile on VeronikaLove of the chosen one
You certainly did it. This is the norm, now every person, before the first meeting, spends at least 10 minutes checking the name of the chosen one. But don't admit it. Telling your partner that he had a great haircut in 2011 or that she shouldn't have baked cupcakes three years ago will just make you look creepy.

3. Talk about ex
And why? Former lovers are deeds of years gone by. Spoiled trips, bad birthdays, ignored anniversaries, and other sins and missteps of exes. Your partner will not only not be interested in listening to this, but he can also draw certain conclusions about you. For example, after hearing a story about a terrible weekend in Paris, take your side. Your chosen one doesn't want to listen to good moments either.

4. Talk about other dates
If there was an award for the most boring and inappropriate topics of conversation, then the monologue about unsuccessful dates would have the first prize. Hearing about other people's romantic encounters is as boring as watching an endless vacation photo album of distant relatives. Plus, such conversations are unlikely to serve you well. A dismissive story about "terrible" candidates may make you look bad. Looking forward to sharing these stories with the world? Start a blog.

5. Talking about politics
In reality, the political debate is far from appealing. Most often it takes place in raised tones, with flushed faces. Besides, what are you trying to achieve by starting a conversation about this topic? Do you want to prove to your interlocutor that he should agree with your point of view? Or change his views on racism, sexism, and religion? It should not be forgotten that the interlocutor may be well-versed in these matters, so there is a chance that the dispute will end before it can begin. And it will leave behind only an unpleasant aftertaste.

6. Make fun of other people's tastes
We have our favorite movies and music. And if someone says that the new album of our favorite singer is mediocre, and the series, which we have watched seven times, is terrible, we are offended. Or we feel out of place. Therefore, refrain from categorically assessing anything on the first date. Your partner may have very warm feelings for Madonna's work, therefore, in response to a categorical statement about her mediocrity, you risk getting a harsh answer.

7. Frankly bored
And worse, display fake emotions. "You look nothing", "Who would have thought!" or "Well, you must!" in response to each remark, they will only annoy the interlocutor. Not sure what to say? Ask your chosen one about hobbies and hobbies. Not interested? Be silent, smile, and order more wine.

8. Look into the phone
In most cases, the phrase "One minute, I have to answer this" means "I'd rather pass the state exam again at the university than sit here with you." The highest form of disrespect is, without taking your eyes off the smartphone screen, to mutter: "You speak, I am listening." Why not have a gadget-free meeting and chat with each other live?

9. Get drunk
What could be more repulsive than the sight of a drunken, incoherently muttering person? Know your limit and don't go over it. Drunkenness comes imperceptibly - just a second ago you were laughing at ease and joking witty, and now you are trying to pronounce the name of the interlocutor. If you feel that another glass of wine will hurt you more likely, stop and order some water.

10. Miss a chance
If we had the opportunity to take a person with us on the first date, who would silently observe the meeting, and then communicate your compatibility and interest in each other, then how many problems would be solved. The most popular dating regrets are missed opportunities. If you notice a genuine interest, and also feel it yourself, do not wait and take the first step yourself.