How to Get the Second Date

It is really great that you finally managed to meet your lady from VeronikaLove! You chatted a lot, and you came to visit her! But what should you do to definitely get the second date?

Make a plan and stay on top of it

We're not talking about a bank robbery. Although as a first date, it would be quite original. In our case, everything is much more prosaic. Have you already planned where you will take the girl, and what time you should meet? What will you do, what will you tell her about, and even perhaps what will you drink? Fine! "Victory loves preparation" - this military proverb fits into the format of the event because the first date is somewhat similar to military action: a lot is at stake. If the meeting place is a restaurant, then let it be in the center or in any other place where she can easily get. And don't try to be late. Even if a 10-point tornado appears on your way, and the city is captured by an alien invasion, you must remain a gentleman.

Ask, listen, ask again

This advice is even simpler than the previous one. No matter how funny your stories are, if you don't want to leave the impression of an empty talker, selfish, or narcissist about yourself, give the girl the opportunity to talk too. Ask about her interests, support the topics in which she is most active. Listen carefully (or at least pretend to), don't interrupt, make it clear that you are interested in it. Asking her questions will show you are interested. Only it shouldn't be like an interview or a police interrogation. Rather, it is an opportunity for a girl to open up and get carried away by communication with you.

Do not push your interest

Let's say that while communicating with her, you discovered that she, like you, loves football, vintage cars, 70s rock, and memes with kittens. From such a combo you blow the tower, and you are on the verge of a declaration of love. Do not rush. The first date is not in. Even if you liked it and turned out to be the one you have been waiting for all your life, this is another reason not to rush so as not to frighten off. Your restraint is your ally. Your communication should balance between moderate praise and your own pride. Do you have a storm of emotions in your head from how cool she is? Give her a discreet compliment. But do not slip into casual flattery and do not lose your dignity. The best praise for her is your interest, which (with a competent approach) is clearly formulated and without any compliments.

Pay the bill

There is nothing more obvious than this simple rule: the moment you accept her polite offer to pay for yourself, you destroy all chances of meeting her again. Even if the bill is more than you expected, you have to pay yourself. And never, under any circumstances, comment on the amount of your order.

Don't delay your second date

It's a sad truth, but some guys, fearful of being intrusive, wait too long before asking a girl out on a second date. And now 2 weeks have passed, and during this time she found herself another. There is really no need to rush. Do not write to her with an offer to meet again immediately after the first date, as soon as she gets home. In this case, it is better to limit yourself to the duty phrase "How did you get there?" (or something similar). But in order to invite her on a second date, we recommend that you wait a day or two. This is enough time to endure a delicate pause and still have time to get bored.