How to Enjoy Your Search for a Partner

Finding the one and only lady on VeronikaLove doesn't have to be exhausting. It can be exciting, romantic, and sweet, no matter your age or past dating experience. You don't have to come up with a clear strategy, but you may need to change your perspective. Instead of viewing the search process as a chore, think of it as an opportunity to think seriously about what you want from life and who you want to spend it with. Here are some tips to help you change your attitude toward dating and hooking up.

Don't rely on one approach
Finding a partner doesn't end when you sign up for Veronica. That's only part of the plan. After you've met, you can use the chat or move on to video calls. All of this will increase your chances of success.

Don't procrastinate, but don't rush
If you've met a girl and think your relationship has potential, don't rush. Sometimes long and happy relationships develop slowly and are accompanied by difficulties at the beginning. Hasty conclusions can lead to you breaking off contact with a good person who is right for you.

Take dating as seriously as you do your job
Put as much energy into your search as you put into developing your career. Finding a worthy partner takes time and effort. If you are ready to spend it, your investment will pay off sooner or later.

Take time to learn about yourself
Our brain only finishes forming by the age of 25-30. Moreover, one of the last to mature is the prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for planning, choosing priorities and making decisions. According to statistics, those who got married at 20 are 50% more likely to get divorced than those who waited until at least 25. Therefore, the time between 20 and 30 is better used to understand yourself, your desires and needs. And even if you are no longer 30, self-knowledge will only bring benefits.

Conduct a compatibility test
Offer to call the lady you like. And if the video call takes place, you can introduce yourself in person, flirt, ask important questions. This will help to avoid unpleasant dates and tense communication, as a result of which it turns out that you have different values.

Focus on quality, not quantity
Be selective. This does not mean that you need to make a long list of criteria that a potential partner must meet. Think about what kind of life you would like to live next to someone and what qualities this someone should have. This will give you a more realistic idea of ​​who is right for you. The more you understand what you really want, the easier it will be to choose partner who will help you achieve them.

Expect difficulties
Become a pessimist. People are often shocked by how much disappointment and heartache comes with finding a partner. The idea that things will probably get worse before they get better can help ease some of that stress.

When you expect difficulties, you can prepare for them. What support will you need if your texts are ignored? Who will you talk to if you hear something awful on a date, like “I don’t like you”? It happens, and it sucks. Preparing for the worst will help you get over the disappointment faster.