It can be so difficult and nerve-wracking to talk about your feelings, especially about love! You may be worried about whether you’ve chosen the right moment to do so, and also worry that you’ll push the girl away with your confession.
But don’t panic — to say “I love you” at the right moment, you need to follow a few simple rules.
First, figure out your feelings
Perhaps your new girlfriend is so good that your heart jumps out of your chest every time you see her. But bright feelings at the beginning of a relationship are not the same as true love.
Falling in love is always an idealization of another person, as well as passion wrapped in a romantic wrapper. You are attracted to the girl, you are excited, and the chemistry between you is simply incredible.
But you shouldn’t confess your love to her while you are experiencing euphoria from feelings. Wait a little while your ardor dies down, and also take a closer look at each other.
As a rule, rose-colored glasses fall off after a few months of a relationship - at this point you begin to notice the girl's shortcomings and understand whether you can put up with them or not. At the same time, a new level of trust and intimacy is established in the relationship, which is characteristic of love, not infatuation.
And if you understand that your emotions for the girl are not based on blind passion, but on respect and the desire not only to receive, but also to give, tell her about love.
Think about whether you are ready for commitment
Dating and flirting can be wonderful. But before telling a girl about love, you should think about whether you want to move the relationship to a more serious level and whether you are ready for new commitments.
If you say you love a girl but don't back it up with actions, you're being dishonest with her and you could also be a big disappointment in her life.
We can say that the phrase "I love you" is not just an expression of feelings that you experience at a certain moment, but an implicit promise of a deeper relationship. Don't give the girl empty hopes, so as not to hurt her.
Speak clearly and concisely
Let your words be clear and concise when talking about love.
To show the feeling of closeness you feel, as well as to demonstrate your serious intentions, don't say the "classic" three-word phrase - it's better to take a little time to explain why you love your girlfriend and how you came to this conclusion.
Firstly, she will be pleased to receive such a compliment and understand what hooked you on her. Secondly, this approach is more personal, as it emphasizes your feelings for her as an individual.
Don't do it suddenly
You shouldn't suddenly say "I love you" if you don't want to scare the girl away. It's better to start with a preface. For example, you can say, "I really want to share with you what I feel, and I ask you to listen to me."
This approach will give her a hint about what you want to talk about, which reduces the level of anxiety. In addition, she can decline your offer and ask to talk about it later, which helps to avoid awkwardness if she is not yet ready to hear words of love from you or to say them in response.
Choose a moment when you are calm and relaxed
You hardly want the girl to remember your first words of love as a crumpled phrase, uttered in a quiet, trembling voice.
You should not say "I love you" when you are anxious or too excited. It is important to choose a time and place where you can feel calm and relaxed in order to choose the right words.
Also, you should not talk about love when you are drunk: the girl most likely will not take your confession seriously, and such a moment cannot be called romantic.
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