9 Questions To Ask On a First Date

Scientists have proven that the right topics for conversation help to strengthen the connection from the very beginning.

The first date is always interesting and exciting. But let's be honest: it's also a real job. Usually everything starts in a standard way, with the questions “Where are you from?” or “What are you doing?” and other platitudes. And they, you see, are rather useless and do not help an awkward conversation in any way.

If you are just getting ready to meet someone you really like, try to break away from the usual pattern and use these 10 simple lines.

1. What is your ideal relationship?
The answer will help you understand what a girl is looking for in a partner and relationship. Be a strong self-sufficient couple, build a balanced and thoughtful partnership, like in business, or maybe become a traditional family where the man works and the woman is the keeper of the hearth.

Don't talk about your desires right away. Listen carefully to your interlocutor. This way you will know if you are a good match or if you have different views on the future.

2. Does anyone think they are dating you right now?
This provocative question must be asked, maybe even jokingly, but ask. No one really needs a relationship with a person who has not fully figured out his personal life and past hobbies.

Read between the lines. If your date says they have a "crazy ex" or "ex-stalker" who is still texting and showing up at their doorstep, there's a small chance that all of these phrases are just code for "We sleep together occasionally."

3. What makes you happy?
Healthy relationships develop in couples where everyone knows what makes them happy. The partner is not obliged to be responsible for our good mood - we must be able to independently cultivate the love of life in ourselves.

Ask the person you're dating to talk about their hobbies. If he or she laughs and treats the question with disdain, this is a bad sign. You already at the stage of the first date are interested in different things. Not the best start for a relationship.

4. How do you feel about monogamy?
If you want just such a relationship, do not be shy about it. The question will not repel a person who agrees with you, but it will help you immediately say goodbye to those who do not suit you.

Try to ask playfully, as if in between times. And if you do not welcome monogamy, ask a similar question, but about polygamy. Trust me, it's much better to discuss these things before you get into a relationship.

5. How are you?
If you need to leave only one banal question, then this one is a win-win option. No matter how boring it may be, this is a good conversation starter that will easily lead you to other interesting topics and help you get to know each other a little closer.

A successful first date requires two people who are ready for a real dialogue, not a series of interview-like questions. During the meeting, do not ask each other about different topics in turn - discuss them together.

Phrases "How are you?" most often it is enough to start a conversation in which you can dissolve. Well, a one-word answer is definitely not the best sign for a future with this person.

6. What are the three main qualities you are looking for in a partner?
It is better not to build illusions, but to immediately figure out whether you are suitable for each other or not. Ask how she sees their partner and what qualities he finds repulsive.

If there is no clear answer to the question, then your interlocutor is not serious about the relationship or has not yet figured out what he wants from them. This is not the best launch pad for a healthy union.

7. How do you imagine a perfect day?
This is about the same as the question about a hobby, only it also reveals a person’s lifestyle.

Listen to how your date sees his ideal day - active or calm, eventful or relaxed, and consider whether you want to be a part of such a life.

8. What is your relationship with your parents?
Behind this question is actually another: “What kind of love have you seen?” We all know that the model of the family is laid down in childhood, and the relationship between mom and dad can largely determine our personal life.

Warm relationships in the family always make a person more stable emotionally and mentally, as well as self-confident. But if you find out that everything is not so rosy, this is not a reason to immediately run away and cut off communication - after all, situations are different. Nevertheless, such a simple question can be the key to understanding your future relationship.

9. Do you still communicate with your childhood friends?
The answer to this question will give you an idea of a person's ability to stay in a relationship for a long time. How long has he been communicating with loved ones who now surround him? Does he keep in touch with old friends? If communication was interrupted, then why did this happen and what can he say about his already former friends?

To create a healthy union, each of the partners must have their own interesting and eventful life. Otherwise, one will dissolve into the other, and such relationships usually end badly.