7 Signs You’ve Found Your Perfect Match

Check how you and your partner fit each other.

1. When you're together, you don't think about others
Take a little test: pay attention to how you behave with a partner in a bar or restaurant. Do you look around to see who else is nearby? Wondering who might see you together? Or are you just happy that the two of you, and vice versa, want to be noticed with him or her? If the second is true, your partner passed the test.

2. Partner rejoices in your success
In an unhealthy relationship, one person often harms the interests of the other. Sincere joy for your achievements is a sign that this will not happen. To do this, the partner must be satisfied with his own life. Then he will rejoice in your successes with you.

“Couples who value each other’s needs and interests find it easier to make compromises than couples in which each thinks only of himself,” says Laura Vanderdrift, a psychologist at Syracuse University.

3. Your partner is not trying to change you
If your partner behaves the same way with you in public and in private, treats you with patience, you are on the right track. However, it does not hurt to listen to your intuition more often. She often sends us signals if something goes wrong, but we ignore them.

For example, if a partner tries to change you or does not accept you the way you are, this is a sign that the person likes to control others. He will never treat you with respect.

4. Partner fits into your life
Consider if your partner's life intersects with yours outside of the relationship. Does he get along with other people in your life? Do you get along with his friends and family? Do you have common interests and activities? If yes, that's a good sign.

5. Partner listens to you
According to psychologist Elinor Greenberg, it's good if your partner is genuinely interested in your life and listens carefully when you speak. It also remembers what you said about yourself. If he almost always talks only about himself, does not ask about you, does not listen to your words, he is unlikely to be interested in you. He just needs to speak up.

6. Your partner comforts you when you are sad
Remember how your partner behaves when you are sad or you had a hard day. He may be empathetic and not distracted when you talk about your experiences. Knows when to just hug.

But if you are criticized for being sad or told that you are overreacting, this is a warning sign. This behavior can be a sign of narcissism. Maybe then it will seem to you that you really reacted sharply. All the same, it is necessary that in a difficult moment you are listened to.

7. Partner does not hide his emotions
In a healthy relationship, partners express their feelings and resolve conflicts. If you hush up discontent, irritation will only grow.

“The quarrel in this case is not a way to hurt another, but an opportunity to learn,” explains psychotherapist Jonathan Marshall. “You’re essentially saying to your partner, ‘This is how your brain works, this is how I feel, we can learn from this and move on.’”