6 Signs of a secure relationship that will help you get better

If you are mutually in love with each other, unfortunately, this does not mean that you have a reliable and healthy relationship. Not all people feel comfortable next to their loved one. Often, it is relationships that are supposed to make people happier and help them grow and develop comprehensively that lead to the exact opposite result.

But to understand that something is wrong and you interfere with each other is not as difficult as gaining confidence that your relationship really makes you better. We've rounded up a few signs that you have nothing to worry about.

1. You can discuss any problem without fear of reproaches.

If you have a really reliable relationship, you are confident in each other. You understand: if some unpleasant or difficult situation happens, you can sit down and calmly talk about it. And you are not afraid of sudden reproaches, accusations, pressure or scandals. Solving problems by talking is an art. Not every person is able to compromise, to listen to someone else's point of view without interrupting, to participate in a dialogue on an equal footing.

If the couple knows that the problem will not be blamed and all attention will be directed to finding a solution to it, you are much more willing to go to the discussion. By the way, this also helps you experience less dissatisfaction in a relationship, because you do not need to be silent about the fact that something does not suit you.

2. You give each other freedom of choice.

Reliable and comfortable relationships are always about freedom, not about restrictions. Of course, you can forbid a person to do what he likes, to look the way he wants, to communicate with those with whom he is interested. But pressure, jealousy and control quickly destroy warm feelings for a partner. There is disappointment in life, anger at a loved one, a desire to act out of spite.

If you are really confident in each other, you will give up hard limits. Of course, at the initial stage of the relationship, you will discuss things that are unacceptable to you. And in the future, you will trust your choice without trying to somehow test a person, catch him in a lie, manipulate him, and so on. A loving person without any control will behave carefully and try not to hurt the other.

3. You don't demand constant attention from each other.

Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you have to devote all your free time to each other. Each of you has your own hobbies, family and friends, interests. In order to grow and develop together, as well as feel comfortable, you need personal space. You don't need to spend next to each other every weekend, it's not necessary to introduce your friends and make them common.

If one of you likes a relaxed holiday, and someone likes hiking, sports and other activities, you do not need to change in order to share the interests of a partner. You are two mature individuals, so you will continue to be separate while moving in the same direction. Relationships are not the only thing in a person's life, so he should not give them all his attention.

4. You don't put each other first.

In the first place, each person should have himself. Not parents, friends, a loved one or his children - first he, and only then everyone else. It is important to adhere to this rule in a relationship. Once you start putting your partner's wants and needs ahead of your own, you stop growing and developing. Instead, you stifle a person with overprotection, overcare, you refuse to satisfy your needs, you stop enjoying life. Seriously, these are extremes that will not lead to anything good.

5. You make all decisions on your own, without advice from friends and family.

A huge mistake that many couples make is following the advice of family and friends. Even advice received from those who sincerely wish you happiness can destroy your relationship. People cannot put themselves in your place, see what is happening in your couple, feel what you feel.

No one but yourself knows what is best for you. Therefore, never rely on the opinions of other people - make all decisions yourself, of course, having discussed them with each other if the problem concerns both of you.

6. You don't demand changes from each other.

You are two adults who were supposed to get to know each other and discuss all the fundamentally important issues before starting a relationship. In this case, you are unlikely to have a desire to change any character traits, habits or external features of your partner. A person should not change simply because someone else demands it. Changes are possible only when you yourself want changes or understand that they are necessary.