Kindness has always been valued in society. After all, if a person has such a quality, then this guarantees that he will always be indulgent, never leave in difficult times and provide support if trouble happens. It would seem that there are only pluses. Then why, when building a relationship, kindness can be the most unexpected obstacle, and the choice will fall on the one who can be classified as a bad guy? Let's take a look at some of the possible reasons.
1) In some cases, kindness can be perceived as weak character.
While the manner of communication and the character of the so-called bad guy can inspire confidence in her, because with such a partner the girl will absolutely feel like behind a stone wall. But this, of course, is only in her dreams.
Most girls simply have a wrong view of kindness: they regard this quality not as a virtue, but, on the contrary, as a manifestation of weakness, which is not justified by anything. A kind person is not a sissy who is ready to obey any authority. He is also able to protect himself and his loved ones, uphold his own values and be tough when circumstances require it.
Tip: Stand up for your opinion and your rights, if necessary, and the girl you like will definitely pay attention to you. Just don't overdo it.
2) A girl can be instilled with such a model of behavior.
For example, in the process of education. If a girl grew up in a family where her father did not put her mother in anything, it is quite logical that in adulthood, on a subconscious level, she will look for a partner with whom she could repeat a similar relationship scenario.
But even if everything was fine in the girl’s family, this does not mean that love for bad guys could not be instilled in her from the outside. The fact is that there are too many bad examples of how not to do it. Take, for example, women who constantly complain about beatings and humiliation from their men, but at the first comment like “well, leave him alone,” they scream at the top of their voices that this is love and that they feel safe with them.
Tip: Try to give examples of healthy relationships from your parents or share your views on how they should develop. Talk heart to heart and try to discuss what the girl herself wants from the relationship.
3) Girls like the image of a charming villain.
This is mainly the fault of the entertainment industry, which shows us charismatic villains with a fine mental organization and a difficult fate. They go against the rules, break the foundations, hate the whole world around them, but at the same time they are able to solve any problems and go to great lengths for the sake of their girlfriend.
Of course, this is exactly what girls like - it's so romantic. True, in reality everything turns out not so rosy. Bad guys turn out not to be anti-heroes from the screen at all - in real life they turn into alcoholics who regularly raise a hand against their women, manipulators with whom relationships turn into a nightmare, or unemployed offended uncles who decide to sit on women around the neck , joyfully dangling legs.
Tip: Remind the girl that real life is cruel, and fantasy and romanticism are the lot of books and movies.
4) A girl can love thrills.
There is a special type of girls - those who cannot live a single day without intrigues and scandals. Not surprisingly, they try to find a suitable partner for themselves - one who will help them spice up the relationship. Kind and adequate guys are swept aside right away: it’s simply unusual for them to solve problems with scandals, and swearing from scratch is completely taboo for them.
Tip: Do you need it? If you want to build a healthy relationship, you definitely shouldn't mess with thrill-seekers.
5) She may like the ability to do bold and crazy things.
Of course, it's great to receive surprises, especially unexpected ones, and almost every girl likes when some kind of bold stupidity is done in her honor. But there is also an obvious minus: usually bad guys do stupid things that are not brave, but dangerous, while not thinking about their health or the health of their girlfriend. But falling in love helps many to ignore common sense, and all possible risks themselves are nullified.
Tip: Surprise the girl, do something pleasant and unexpected, but try to avoid possible dangers at the same time.
6) Bad guys are manipulative.
In principle, they are familiar with all possible manipulations, so it’s completely easy for them to fall in love with a girl. More often, they win simply because they show more initiative (and in a rather rude way), attract more attention to themselves and take over with their self-confidence. It's hard for them to refuse.
Advice: Be active and persevere. You are no worse.
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