6 Good Relationship Habits That Many Think Are Bad

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1. Give your partner freedom
Of course, in this formulation, the habit looks quite neutral to itself. Although such a description may excite someone's minds. However, in practice, observers often perceive trust in a partner as indifference and disinterest.

2. Spending time apart
It is naive to expect that partners who some time ago were strangers will suddenly turn into one organism with common interests and desires. One likes cosplay festivals, and the other likes fishing. One wants to go to the movies on the weekend, and the other wants to go to a puppy show. We can say that in such cases it is always worth negotiating: today the couple follows the desires of one, tomorrow - the other. But from time to time you can separate and do something separately. Everyone will be satisfied, there will be something to talk about in the evening.

3. Put up with the shortcomings of a partner
A popular idea is that people in a couple should certainly make each other better, grow above themselves. Dozens of women's trainings are devoted to how to inspire a man to become richer, smarter, stronger and taller. Dozens of men talk about how to "educate a wife."

It is difficult to call such an approach healthy. The man supposedly believes that he has found a talking log, and is trying to cut Pinocchio out of it. That is, in fact, it deprives him of subjectivity, the right to be as he is. We build relationships not with a blank, but with a full-fledged person. He does not need to carve out new legs and fingers, he already has everything.

In addition, the shortcomings of a partner are not a universal matter. What is not pleasant to one, is pleasant to another. So it’s worth recognizing that if we want to change a person, we don’t care about making him better. We're trying to fit it in. Doesn't sound great anymore, does it?

4. Hold boundaries
Personal boundaries allow us to feel psychologically comfortable. This is a kind of set of rules that help you determine for yourself and explain to others how you can and cannot be with you.

In relationships, they do not magically appear, because the partner cannot know by default where your boundaries lie. For example, one person does not see anything wrong with reading other people's correspondence and can give his phone away at any time, but he is dissatisfied when his portion of food disappears from the refrigerator. For others, it may be the other way around.

5. Put yourself first
In a distant kingdom, in a distant state, one person completely forgot about himself and devoted himself to his family without a trace. And from this he felt absolutely happy, he did not reproach anyone for spending the best years of his life on his household, and did not expect them to return the favor to him. But this is a fairy tale, of course.

It is important to immediately clarify the difference between "think about yourself" and "think only about yourself." In the second case, building a normal relationship is unlikely to work. If one person constantly pulls the blanket over himself, the other will be forced to put up with it and please forever, which he is unlikely to like.

6. Check current relationship status
There are many folk wisdoms like “if you start to doubt whether a partner is right for you, it's time to leave, he is not for you.” Because if you admit the thought that not only death can separate you, then this is the collapse of everything. Wherever the relationship leads, you must hold on to the last.

Although in fact it’s good to sometimes emerge from the routine and look at the interaction with a partner with a fresh look. Do you like everything in your relationship? Do they lead there? How have you changed with your partner and do you still agree with him on key issues?

The answers are not necessarily upsetting. It is likely that you will note with satisfaction that your relationship is still great - even better than you imagined. Or you can find some kind of crack before it turns into a tragic fracture, and fix everything (at least put a beacon).

If you let everything take its course, there is a risk of one day discovering that the relationship ended long ago - you just didn’t understand it.