5 Things that Make You Look Desperate with a Girl

Most men today meet girls on Veronikalove. It's much easier than walking up on the street or in a bar where it's not clear who she is and whether she's going to pee in front of dozens of people right away.

Both online and in real life, mistakes can be made. Here are a few actions that make you look desperate to communicate with a girl. These actions can cause her resentment or even hostility, or show how much you want her attention, and kill all interest.

1. You write messages that are much longer than her answers.
In our time, when many people have developed clip thinking, it has become difficult for people to perceive large amounts of text, especially in instant messengers. It is worth writing several sentences in one message, and that's it - it already becomes "unreadable".

In addition, if you write almost a novel in response to a girl's "how are you doing," it is tiring and shows that you actively need her. Moreover, it may seem too serious, as if you are getting ahead of yourself.

It is better to write either the same size or even slightly smaller messages so that she does not have such a feeling. And again - ask yourself: would you like to read multi-volume tirades about everything and about nothing?

2. You post double questions.
Imagine a situation when you ask a girl: “What are you doing?”, But you don’t get an answer. You wait a few minutes, then an hour, but still no answer. It starts to seem like you're either being ignored, or you just don't care and the girl has something more important than talking to you.

What do many guys do in this case? They post double questions in the style of “what are you doing?”, And then “?” or “what are you doing?” followed by “are you there?”.

It shows your intemperance - that you cannot wait. Perhaps work has piled on her and she cannot answer anyone, or she left the phone in the room, and she herself went to cook. When she has time, she will answer you. If not, then there is no need to impose.

3. You create negativity out of thin air when she doesn't respond.
The same situation when she does not answer your “what are you doing?” for a long time. This time, instead of trying to get through to her with many separate messages with a question mark, you start to lose your temper. “What if she doesn’t care about me” or “what if she is now with another guy, but she’s just playing with me.”

When such jealousy arises, many guys begin to behave inappropriately and do not think about the consequences. They post something like “ignore it further” or try to include sarcasm in the style of “well, I didn’t know that you were such an important person that you didn’t care about some guys there.”

It is likely that she was just as busy, or her phone simply hung. And you keep posting the product of your shattered ego. And when she nevertheless frees herself, she will see how much you depend on her and how desperate you are that, without understanding the situation, you blame her for something.

4. You are available to her at any time of the day.
Each person should have personal boundaries and self-respect. Desperate guys forget about it and are ready to answer messages or call any time she wants.

The same applies to offline communication. When you tell a girl something like "I'm free for you at any time" or "write whenever you want, I'll always answer", it tells her about your dependence on her and frivolity as a person. Still, since you have so much free time for her, what do you do all day then?

A man who is engaged in self-development does not have much free time for communication, especially for full-fledged dates. Therefore, he cannot just take it and, spitting on a well-thought-out schedule, rush into the pool of relationships with his head.

5. You openly show your feelings when you have not been asked about it.
Imagine how ridiculous the conversation looks in the style: - Her: ...so I decided to start doing fitness to tighten my figure. You: wow, that's great, although you're already very beautiful, and also, you know, I really like you.

The example is exaggerated, but the essence is clear - an open demonstration of feelings, when you are not asked about it, clearly shows your desperate situation. The logic is simple: since she does not understand hints, she must be told openly about her feelings, and come what may. But it looks at least strange and is more likely to frighten her off with your seriousness.

Lead to feelings gently, stand in her place. Would you really be happy if a girl, to whom you have not really developed feelings yet, poured a bucket of her emotions on you? Unlikely. You would be tense, and maybe even scared. So act smart, don't be a desperate guy.