If you want a second date after the first date, or if everything is fine in an existing relationship, get rid of the phrases that we will talk about. However, it is also necessary to get rid of the attitude towards girls corresponding to these phrases. That is, from stereotypical thinking, from sexism.
1. A woman must obey a man.
First, listening and obeying are two different things. Secondly, do you need a girlfriend or do you still need a pet? Of course, if you have wisdom and know about something that she does not know, you need to share information with her and give advice (not instructions). And all this should be in a friendly, not demanding manner. Yes, in difficult situations, you, as a man, must take responsibility and make certain decisions. It is possible to say that "we will do as I said, without options." And in such moments, a normal girl will only be glad that you showed yourself properly, and did not hesitate and handed over the reins of power to her hands. Without fanaticism and despotism, please. And when girls hear such phrases from guys, it is precisely such a terrible word as “despot” that appears in their bright and beautiful heads.
2. All women are the same.
Yes, you are one of a kind. The world has converged on you. If they are all the same, why are you not with Lucy, nicknamed Centner, but with chubby Maria, who has a neat and beautiful nose, a wasp waist, a gorgeous bust, and in general she is a walking sex machine? Lucy cooks deliciously and obeys the men. Why not with her? The phrase is idiotic and very vague. This is “the same” - what is it all about? About interests, values, appearance? Unclear. Only one thing is clear as day: there are no identical girls. Ugly ones too. If you manage to say this to your girlfriend, a scandal cannot be avoided. Think about the meaning of this parasitic phrase and get rid of it.
3. You are a woman - you do not understand.
This is almost the same as the favorite phrase of adults: "Grow up - you will understand." How is the understanding of something related to gender, tell me? Phrase is complete bullshit. And it's offensive to girls. If she doesn't like fishing, which you're crazy about, it's not because she's a girl. She just doesn't like fishing. Have you seen spinning girls? They exist. If you were talking about cars, but she is completely off topic, this phrase is also inappropriate. At least because you most likely started such a conversation. To end it with "you don't understand" is to make a fool of yourself. Do not forget that among men there are those who do not understand anything about cars, fishing or something else.
4. This is not a man's business.
Wash floors, for example. Attention, the question is: how are vital things like cleaning, washing or ironing clothes distributed by gender? That's what we don't understand. Just household chores - nothing to be ashamed of. Or, living alone, you do not mop the floor, because it is not a man's business, and sleep in a mountain of dust? Such expressions create the image of a lazy unscrupulous person. It is unlikely that anyone wants to deal with, forgive me, with an asshole. But what really is not a man's business is to divide life into male and female. It is called in one word because it is common.
5. Yes, if not for me ...
When it comes to first meetings, this is used to praise yourself for something. It doesn't seem pretty. What do you think? And if you have been in a relationship for a long time, starting a sentence with these words is strictly contraindicated. If you reason as objectively as possible and see that the girl really behaves in an ungrateful way, it is permissible to tell her about this, why endure? But again, in a normal form, present everything, and not “yak”. If the matter has nothing to do with her attitude towards you, then you do not know what disinterestedness is. If anything, we remind you: this is when you do good deeds and do not expect anything in return. Well, the maximum that you are waiting for is a simple human “thank you”. However, if there are phrases starting with “yes, if not for me ...”, most likely, you are concerned about trade and market relations and you need your partner to somehow pay for every gesture of goodwill. And for her, this will mean that you simply did not notice everything that she did. A good person is always grateful for help and a warm attitude towards him. Girls show gratitude in different ways. The main thing is to understand when they do it.
Ijaz khan
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