When a guy and a girl can understand each other without words, and the feelings between them are sincere and bright, we call it chemistry. You can see that chemistry in movies too, when you really believe the characters, like the actors really fell in love with each other.
Due to the abstract nature of such a thing as chemistry between people, a lot of misconceptions have arisen about it, which spoil everything and deprive you of the chance to enjoy life.
1. Chemistry is instant
This is the so-called love at first sight, when you feel that this person is yours, just by seeing or hearing him. But this is a wrong assumption. Chemistry is made up of many factors. And this is not only appearance and character, but also the same voice, laughter, smell and other parameters. Do not forget that although we are not very different from animals, we are still social creatures that are guided not only by pheromones.
Therefore, if there was no instant chemistry between you at the first glance or a handshake, do not attach great importance to this. It is possible that feelings will come with time.
2. First impressions are the only true ones
One of the biggest myths that gets in the way of building a good relationship is not taking action if first impressions were negative. Popular culture has instilled in us the idea that first impressions are irreversible, and if you don’t like each other right away, then there’s no point in trying.
This is not so, and there is no scientific evidence for this judgment. Some people even feel dislike for each other for a long time, and only thanks to a certain event they are saturated with chemistry and feelings opposite to early emotions arise.
3. If there is chemistry between you, then these are definitely romantic feelings.
This myth is constantly exploited in the works of popular culture. If you feel a storm of emotions for a person and you understand that he is really yours, then these feelings have subtext.
The truth is that there can be chemistry between friends, even of different genders, between members of the same sports team, even between colleagues. It's just a strong connection with the person you feel comfortable around.
4. Chemistry only occurs between like-minded people.
Guided by this misconception, people are looking for partners among personalities similar to themselves. But in fact, chemistry can arise even between people who differ in almost everything. Moreover, it is much more likely to occur between partners that differ from each other, because, from an evolutionary point of view, a large difference means a minimum risk of inbreeding.
Therefore, you should not strain because of the feelings that you have for a person who belongs to a group that is not particularly understandable or pleasant to you.
5. This feeling can be imitated or made to occur.
Unlike more down-to-earth feelings like sympathy, respect, and the like, chemistry cannot be elicited on purpose by forcing oneself to see the positive side in a person. You either have it or you don't, there's no other choice.
As we said above, chemistry may not occur immediately, but after some time. But it must appear on its own. It will be like a kind of firework of feelings, as if you took that pill from the movie "Areas of Darkness" and see this world bright and colorful.
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