What to do if the girl doesn’t reciprocate.

Surely at least once in your life you have encountered a situation when your feelings for a girl were not mutual. Perhaps you realized this when you did not see any reaction to flirting or courtship, or maybe she interrupted your serious conversations about feelings and emphasized that you are friends.

Someone advises in such a case not to stop trying to win the girl and show your persistence, and someone, on the contrary, argues that you need to leave her alone and switch your attention to someone or something else. Of course, it is up to you to decide what to do in this situation. The only thing we can help you with in such a difficult matter is to consider the arguments to make it easier for you to make a choice.

Arguments for why it is worth continuing

You are using the chance to change the situation
Life is full of surprises, and sometimes the efforts of one person can melt the ice in the heart of another. If a girl is not ready to reciprocate your feelings for some reason now, this does not necessarily mean that her answer will not change over time. Sometimes your persistence, willingness to wait and careful attitude can turn the situation around. The main thing is to remain sincere and not put pressure on the girl.

You can get to know her better
When trying to win a girl over, you get the opportunity to learn more about her - her interests, dreams and values. This process can help you determine how compatible you are with each other. It may turn out that you have different views on the future, different desires and needs, in which it is impossible or extremely difficult to find a compromise.

You can change her opinion of you
Sometimes a girl's first impression of you can be wrong. Not wanting to continue communicating with you due to hasty conclusions or the pressure of stereotypes, she may distance herself. By showing interest and persistence, you can use the opportunity to show yourself from a different side and change her opinion of you for the better.

You demonstrate your self-confidence
Confidence is attractive, so girls often pay attention to those men in whom this quality is clearly visible. By showing persistence, you demonstrate your determination and belief that you can create a happy relationship. This increases your chances of a positive outcome.

Moreover, with your courtship, you can strengthen the girl's belief that you know how to please her, will appreciate her in a relationship and show care.

You show consistency in your choice
For some girls, a long courtship is a kind of test for the sincerity of your feelings. Consistency in choosing a potential partner is often seen as a sign of seriousness of intentions. If you are sincere and ready to make an effort to win the girl, this can show her your devotion and depth of feelings.