Why do you fall in love quickly, easily and often

If you notice that you often immerse yourself in love, but in the end this does not lead to a long and strong relationship, then most likely you are susceptible to emophilia. It can be a big problem and a headache to deal with and deal with.

Emophilia is also called emotional promiscuity - it is defined as the tendency to fall in love quickly and often. People who are exposed to it develop an unwavering and all-encompassing passion for romantic interest.

But this is not a fleeting feeling that can disappear on its own. Emophilia can be described as a true obsession with an object of romantic interest. A person susceptible to it finds it difficult to cope with obsessive thoughts about who he feels emotions towards, and he is also unable to keep his feelings under control.

Why emophilia could be a problem
Of course, falling in love is a pleasant feeling, but those who experience it too quickly and easily should not be envied. There are several problems that people with emophilia face.

Need for strong emotions, not relationships
People with emophilia in most cases do not have the need for healthy and strong relationships, as it might seem at first glance. For them, what is more important is the excitement, emotions, excitement and “butterflies in the stomach” that appear from the feeling that they have someone with whom they are in love.

Having a romantic interest causes the reward system in their brain to fire into overdrive. It makes you feel inspired, satisfied with life, happy.

But if they are not in love with anyone, a complete mess of negative emotions begins in their soul, so they look for a new object of romantic interest for whom they can experience feelings, and they find it very quickly.

Vulnerability to toxic relationships
The need for romantic experiences makes people with emophilia vulnerable to toxic relationships. As a rule, when they are in love, they tend to act impulsively and make rash, hasty decisions, and therefore become an easy target for dubious individuals such as narcissists, manipulators, and psychopaths.

Due to quick emotional attachment, a person prone to emophilia does not notice red flags in communication and cannot take off his rose-colored glasses for a long time, even if his girlfriend shows her negative qualities with all her might.

And the longer the relationship lasts, the worse it becomes. As a rule, this whirlpool is overwhelming, and it can be too difficult to leave a romantic relationship, especially if you feel deep affection for the girl.

But even if a person susceptible to emophilia manages to escape from a toxic relationship, he again and again enters into exactly the same ones. It may seem that he is deliberately choosing partners who create unhealthy emotional connections and are detrimental to his well-being.

Promiscuity
Emophilia has another big disadvantage: because of it, you can become promiscuous in your relationships. It's not always possible to feel the true closeness and affection that comes with deep love for the girls you date.

In this case, feelings are built solely on passion, excitement and lust. Therefore, having experienced emotions for someone else other than your girlfriend, you can cheat on her with a light heart or maintain relationships with several people you like at the same time.

Promiscuity has many unpleasant consequences, from loss of reputation to deep feelings of loneliness and the inability to form healthy relationships.

How to deal with emophilia
It is important to fight emophilia in time to stop worsening your life and ending up in toxic relationships. There are several ways that will help with this.

Stop throwing yourself into the deep end
Even if you feel a strong attachment to someone, do not rush to move beyond non-binding dates. Take a break and analyze how the girl you like behaves. At this moment, try to turn off the romantic in yourself and for a while become the most meticulous critic, so that nothing prevents you from being unbiased and objective.

Perhaps your intuition tells you that there is still something wrong with the wonderful girl you like. For example, she starts talking about moving in with you on the second date, keeps silent about important things when you ask her questions, and gets angry for no reason. Or she allows herself to openly criticize you, tries to impose her worldview as the only correct one, or forces you to change so that you turn out the way she likes.

So, if you notice such signs, stop, slow down and think three times whether you need a relationship that will lead to pain and disappointment.

Learn to spend time alone with yourself
As a rule, people with emophilia have difficulty experiencing loneliness and do not know how to enjoy time spent alone with themselves. But you need to learn this if you want to stop falling in love serially.

Practice self-care: exercise, proper nutrition, proper sleep patterns. Find a hobby that will force you to be distracted from the whole world and immerse yourself in an interesting activity.

Record how meetings went and analyze it
It's important to embrace the pragmatist rather than the romantic if you want to overcome emophilia and learn how to create healthy romantic connections.

So, make it a rule to write down in your diary how your romantic meeting with another girl went, as well as your feelings after this event. Why do this? By re-reading your notes, especially if you're trying to convey what happened in great detail, it will be easier to analyze your romantic interest's behavior and check it against your list of relationship red flags.

When keeping a diary, try not to idealize dates, but to remain realistic. The more unbiased your notes are, the easier it will be to protect yourself from another mistake and disappointment.

By taking a break from a relationship, you can learn to feel good, even if there is no one around, and also better figure out what kind of girl you want to build a future relationship with.