Control in Relationships.

Man always wants to control everything, this is his nature. The more we control everything, the calmer we feel. But it is impossible to control everything, and moreover, it is not necessary. Especially do not need to control other people, including those we love. It is necessary to get rid of this habit, but not in order to allow a loved one to do whatever he wants to do, but in order to feel calm. After all, because of the desire to control everything, we feel uneasy and this anxiety feeds our jealousy. Therefore, in order to get rid of jealousy, you need to give the other person more freedom and let go of life, let it go its own way. Let everything go by itself - do not be afraid of the unknown. What will be will be - you will cope with any situation, be sure of it. Think more about yourself - about your qualities, about your capabilities - strive to expand them, work on yourself, develop yourself. After all, the only person in this life whom you can more or less completely control is yourself.

Enthusiasm. Get carried away with something. You know, sometimes, in order to calm down and stop inventing all sorts of fables about another person, fueling your feelings of jealousy with them, it makes sense to switch your attention to something interesting in order to distract yourself from all your bad thoughts. Do something interesting - find yourself some worthy activity in which you can dive headlong. This is very useful and, in principle, simple. The main thing is to captivate yourself, that's all.

Respect. Respect yourself. Finally, the last thing I want to recommend to you to stop being jealous is to start respecting yourself more. It is clear that first of all you need to deal with your fears, with your insecurity, with your egoism, resentment, anger and other negative feelings. But sometimes you need to think about your attitude to yourself. Respect yourself. Do not be jealous in order to regret yourself once again, in order to cry to others about what an unhappy fate you have, because if you are dragged into this swamp of suffering, you will suffer all your life. Anger, selfishness, fears, self-doubt - all this can be dealt with, but if a person likes to suffer, if he likes to feel sorry for himself, if he wants other people to feel sorry for him, then this is very difficult to cure. Respect yourself - do not make yourself a victim of circumstances and unhappy love, whose jealousy is expressed in self-pity. This attitude towards yourself and life will not make you a happy person.

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