It's hard to build a healthy relationship if either or both of you are making hasty decisions. Moreover, in some of them, the people around you tend to support you. There are things to which society is obviously positive. The main thing is to be able to focus only on yourself and your readiness, and not on what someone else advised you. We've put together a few solutions that you don't need to rush into.
1 The decision to move in.
The decision to try living together is often made too early. Instead of keeping the relationship romantic by continuing the candy-bouquet period, you can get emotional and move in together. Most people see nothing wrong with this. On the contrary, others may say that the sooner you start living together, the sooner you will understand whether you are suitable for each other. This is fundamentally the wrong approach. If you move in after a few months or weeks, chances are your relationship won't last. Starting to live with a person whom you still don’t know well is generally a strange decision. At this stage of the relationship, you are still trying to show only your best features, show maximum loyalty to the desires and requirements of your partner, and want to receive strong emotions from meetings. All this only complicates the organization of joint life. There is no set period after which you can move in without worrying that the relationship may worsen. Each person should be guided by a sensible assessment of their particular situation. But still, there is no need to rush. In the future, you may regret that you deprived yourself of the opportunity to develop relationships gradually, without rushing things.
2 Deciding to get married.
A very big mistake is to hurry with a marriage proposal. Even if everyone around you is telling you that it is time for you to legitimize your relationship, and you have been dating for a long time, and maybe even managed to live together, you need to think carefully before making such an important decision. If you feel that you are not ready, or doubt your choice, do not give in to pressure. Recklessness in this case can lead you to more unfortunate consequences than the decision to postpone the conclusions. It's best to postpone the wedding until you're both ready to take this step. So you will not deceive either your loved one or yourself. The reluctance to register a marriage is not at all an indicator that you do not see a future with your girlfriend. On the contrary, this may indicate that you are too serious about your union and want to make an offer when you are firmly confident in your own choice and ready for such responsibility. But here it is important to add that there is no point in delaying the wedding too much. After about two or three years of relationship, it should already become clear to you whether this person is yours or not. In the event that you understand that you made a mistake with the choice, have the courage to honestly admit this to the girl. So you will not deceive each other, indulge in false expectations and waste other people's time.
3 Deciding to get to know the parents.
In fact, getting to know your parents is a serious step in a relationship, with which it is important not to rush. It should be clarified that we are talking about an official acquaintance - when a partner is invited to a family dinner or a holiday, introduces himself to the family, and so on. In this case, parents take your relationship seriously. After all, not every guy or girl is known to children. What is fraught with haste in this matter - first of all, you really become much closer with the girl. Your family may express a desire to see her more often at the holidays, to follow her life on social networks, to be in touch with her. It is possible that your parents will put pressure on you when making any important decisions, push you to the wedding, climb into your relationship. Of course, you need to consider what kind of parents you or she has. You also need to understand that some girls perceive the official acquaintance with their parents as a pre-wedding stage in a relationship. In fact, this is logical - before you find out that a child wants to marry, it is important for parents to get to know his chosen one. So either take your time to organize a meeting of the girl with your family, or discuss the reasons for meeting in advance. Well, and, of course, introduce only the girl with whom you are counting on a serious relationship with your parents.
4 The decision to have a child.
The decision to have a child, taken too early under someone else's pressure or because of recklessness, spoils the life of not only new parents. Imagine what it would be like for a child who was born into a family where they regret his appearance. It is unlikely that such children can count on a healthy psyche. They are likely to be lashed out on a regular basis, they will be made to blame for everything, they will grow up in a lack of love from their parents. Surrounding people most often approve of the decision to have a child. And even if the couple does not have a stable income or their own apartment. It is important not to rush into this matter. First you need to get to know yourself better, reach a certain level of intimacy, be confident in each other. Then you must take care to be able to give the child everything he needs. And only after that, if the decision to become parents is really conscious for both of you, you can think about pregnancy.
5 Deciding to consolidate the budget.
Many people believe that if a couple started living together, then you need to organize a common budget. But this decision should not be rushed either. It is important to analyze who earns how much and talk about everyone's expectations. There is no single correct approach to budgeting in a relationship. For some, the overall budget is more suitable, while others want to combine only some part of their expenses, for example, to pay for an apartment or groceries. Both the first and second options are absolutely normal if they suit both you and your girlfriend. It is important not to listen to numerous advisers and not to make ill-considered decisions. Otherwise, your actions may lead to misunderstandings and disagreements in the couple. Someone may see injustice in this approach to organizing finances or feel embarrassed. Don't let anyone around you teach you how to manage your money properly.
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